BeSoChEmPs:
the five-headed dragon
When you take a look at all of the
complexities of a smoker’s behavior, you’ll see that tobacco use is much more
than a chemical addiction. There are many influences—your behaviors and habits,
social situations, chemical dependence, and the emotional and psychological
attachments to smoking—that make you want to use tobacco. To illustrate the
complexities, imagine a dragon with five heads.
knowing
besochemps
First we have to memorize the dragon’s
name. Look at it again… besochemps. The dragon’s name helps us remember each of
the five heads. The five heads are: BEhavioral, SOcial, CHemical,
EMotional, and PSychological. We call the dragon BESOCHEMPS to
help remember all five heads.
We all have a “dragon” if we overeat,
undereat, drink to excess, use illicit drugs, smoke, gamble, etc. Even
activities like going on spending binges can create a release of endorphins,
which can cause a chemical dependency for some of us.
Your mission is three-fold:
1.)
Can you see all five heads of your dragon?
2.) Which one (or two) of the heads
are most dominant?
3.)
Can you learn the tools and tricks that give you back the control?
(Illustration by Mark Velard)
Let’s take a closer look at each of the heads:
BE havioral
Each
puff of a cigarette delivers a dose of nicotine to your brain that chemically
reinforces the behaviors—the triggers—that accompany smoking. A single
cigarette delivers approximately 10 mini-doses of nicotine. Your behavioral
trigger may be drinking coffee, talking on the phone or driving.
How
you can respond: Starting today, call this kind of want a “trigger.”
•
Disassociate the partnered behaviors from smoking before quit day so that
they cease to be triggers to smoke. For instance, if you tend to smoke while
drinking a cup of coffee, leave your coffee cup inside when you go outside to
smoke. Isolating the smoking behavior from all pleasurable activities until
quit day means that you don’t have to stop the pleasurable activities in order
to stop smoking.
•
Data collection can help you better understand your smoking. Try to figure
out which head of the dragon is behind each cigarette.
•
Doing it differently can help you avoid some triggers. Getting your morning coffee
at the drive-thru window can help you avoid the familiar routines that were
associated with smoking.
•
When you discover that you want a cigarette because of a behavioral trigger, be
delighted! Don’t despair. This want is just a trick and you don’t have
to fall for it!
SO cial
Many
social situations (the places and faces) can become triggers that make
you want to smoke.
How
you can respond:Starting
today, call this kind of want a “trigger.”
•
Ask your “smoking buddy” to be your
“take-a-walk-at-break-time buddy.” Also ask your buddy to abstain from smoking
around you for a while. This will disrupt social patterns and you might
even inspire your friend to try to quit!
•
Change the place where you and your
buddy meet, at least for a few weeks, to disassociate the social
situations from smoking. Perhaps going out to the movies would be an easier
smoke-free night out to replace your dart night at the club.
•
Distract yourself by doing some smoke-free activities with your buddy.
CH emical
Your
body may have a discernable medical response to the reduction of nicotine in
your bloodstream or craving for a cigarette. This state of withdrawal
can be uncomfortable, but it will pass. No one has ever died from nicotine
withdrawal.
How
you can respond: Starting today call, this kind of want a “craving.”
•
Before quit day, delay every
cigarette. (You’ll end up skipping some of them!)
•
Decrease your dependence by gradually reducing your smoking.
•
Drink water as a way to help detoxify your body and give your hands and
mouth something to do.
•
Deep breathing is a great way to give your brain a fresh supply of oxygen
and change the way you feel.
EM otional
Intense
emotional feelings or the absence of emotional stimulus (boredom) can cause urges
to smoke. We’ve trained ourselves to smoke when we are stressed. Smoking
actually creates more stress for our body as it elevates our heart rate, blood
pressure and respiratory rate.
How
you can respond: Starting today, call this kind of want an “urge.”
•
Deep breathing can help defuse these brief periods of anxiety, anger or even
boredom.
•
Distract yourself until these episodes pass—and make it fun! Try a
crossword puzzle or handheld electronic poker game. Change radio stations, take
a brisk walk or learn how to hula-hoop.
•
Daily disciplines such as prayer, meditation and yoga can help you manage stressors
in healthier ways.
PS ychological
To
some extent, anyone who knowingly participates in a behavior that causes harm
has decided to allow harm to come to him or her. For some reason, we have compulsions
to either cause harm or allow harm to happen to us. Smokers (as well as
overeaters, alcoholics, etc.) might ask themselves why it’s acceptable for harm
to come to them.
How you can respond: Starting today, call this want a “compulsion.”
•
Certain daily disciplines of a
spiritual and/or emotional nature can sometimes help restore a healthier sense
of self-worth.
•
Dig deep within yourself to find answers and strength.
While it's not necessarily comfortable to discuss and share personal spiritual beliefs, a focus there may very well be the only way we can hope to become "slip-proof." When we can recognize our "soul-dented" state, we can begin the process of restoring our self-image until self-destructive actions like smoking become unthinkable.
BESOCHEMPS: The Five Headed Dragon Copyright TJSweeney 2008 All rights reserved.